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Serious Warning To All Men Who Visit Professional Dominatrixes |
Example 1) When Jim called Mistress X, she told him she had over 5 years experience as a Dominatrix, did sessions from her beautifully equipped dungeon, had a full fetish wardrobe and described herself as a curvaceous 25 year old blonde. Upon arrival, Jim was greeted by an overweight, unkempt, thirty-something female, wearing a polyester black dress. The 'dungeon' was a small bedroom inside an old, messy house. There was no visible sign of equipment. A novice, Jim stayed for the session. His experience was not even close to his fantasy. Example 2) Lloyd's passion is feet. He loves to kiss, lick and worship bare toes. Clearly, Lloyd is a foot fetishist. He's also fifty pounds, overweight. Oftentimes, Mistresses he has visited have berated his appearance. These remarks are unsolicited. Lloyd does not like being called names. Because of these experiences, Lloyd no longer seeks variety. He finds good, quality Mistresses and sees them over and over again. |
The above case scenarios are real and happened to submissives I know. Over the years, I've heard countless horror stories from submissives. Don't make the same mistakes they did. Be wary of answering ads cold. Generally, if a woman does not show her face in the ad, there's a reason. I'm not just talking about the obvious. Looks aren't as important as a genuine love of the S/M scene. If an advertised Dominatrix, is ashamed of showing her face in an ad, chances are good that she harbors ill feelings about the scene. Deep down she may feel her clients are sick, perverted freaks. A session with that kind of person can be extremely damaging to the psyche. Verbal humiliation is not for everyone. Some people find it down right upsetting and degrading. A good, understanding Mistress is not verbally insulting, as a matter of course. If you see someone who calls you names that you find offensive, run the other way. That woman is cruel, uncaring and out of touch. They have no compassion or understanding about problems that may be emotionally painful. Novice submissives are often subjected to flakes, impostors, and people who do not understand. In recent years, the S/M scene has been the center of much publicity. Daytime talk shows, night time sit coms and countless Hollywood movies make reference to S/M. Though the scene is generally portrayed as something to joke about, or put down, it is nevertheless in the public eye. Unlike a decade ago, today, almost everyone knows the term, Dominatrix. Therefore, you must be more careful than ever. Many women, are jumping on the S/M bandwagon. They want to become professional Mistresses. They think it's their ticket to the easy life and quick money. Generally, they won't last in the business. However, you don't want to be one of their casualty cases. There are no degrees given to S/M practitioners. The only real training is gained with hands on experience. Good Dominatrixes have generally apprenticed with someone else. A general love of the scene and an open minded attitude are also important. The S/M scene is about love and trust. A good session can be healing and nurturing. Most submissives have feelings of shame or guilt since their sexuality is different from the norm. The difference between a supportive Dominatrix or impostor, can be the difference between mental health or neurosis. Open yourself up to someone who is understanding, caring and supportive of your needs Remember, you're important. Quality is invaluable. Never be afraid to spend money on something that is worthwhile. Don't look for a bargain; seek value. Don't be taken - get value for your money. Buy products from companies that produce quality. Spend a few dollars more on yourself. You're worth it! - Mistress Jacqueline Omerta |